April 21 ~ Makhtubah

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April 21 is R.A. Kartini's birth date. And according to some references, it is also Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) date of birth. As for me, April 21 is the day when my journey to the marriage is started. April 21, 2013. Now, I'm a "makhtubah"*.

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I can say that my khitbah** story is rather unique. Why is that? Well, because it wasn't really planned. I mean, my fuhus*** didn't really plan to khitbah-ing me on April 21, 2013. Today, he and his family was only intended to meet my parents, strengthened silaturrahim, and chose the marriage date (for us). But then, a night before that date (read : yesterday), my genius father offered a change of plan. My father told me to tell my fuhus to sort of modify the visit into khitbah mode. This is what he said:

"Sekalian aja deh bilang ke Mas-mu untuk melamarmu besok, Nak. Walaupun tidak lengkap, keluarga kita banyak yang bisa hadir dan mengingat mengumpulkan mereka itu tidak mudah, ya jadi sekalian saja. Lagipula kan sudah jelas arahan kalian menuju ke pernikahan. Buat apa lagi "basa-basi" silaturrahim?!".

I knew that the change of plan my father offered to my fuhus was going to make a huge commotion in his family #grin. I knew that he and his family didn't prepare anything for the thing they might think as important as marriage. And yeah...it turned out as brouhaha as I predicted. "Heboh", that's a word my fuhus expressed to describe his family reaction after they received the sudden news from my father. Hihi #mas, maaf ya..XD. Dad, you were the culprit of that huge commotion #LOL. 

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Honestly, after I contemplated again about that sudden change of plan, I felt very grateful. I  have to thank my dearest father for that #dad,yourock!. If my fuhus planned to khitbah-ing me on that date, I guaranteed he and his family would be extremely busy and rempong to prepare this and that, bought-and-prepared a bunch of seserahan-whatsoever and immersed in a long-winding and troublesome rounds of traditions thingy. Yeah, and of course the what so-called "traditions" are not even needed. Never needed and definitely not important. Traditions are only burdening, without having a speck of Islamic value in them. In Islam, khitbah-ing never meant to be burdening. It is supposed to be easy, simple, and blessed. That's more than enough. And I'm so happy that mine was like that. Alhamdulillah...:)

Mas, thank you for accepting my father's challenge to propose me. You are always a.w.e.s.o.m.e :)!

*makhtubah : an Arabic word means "a person who is proposed by someone"
**khitbah : an Arabic word means "propose; in terms of marriage purpose"
***fuhus : future husband #grin